What's the most important values in a relationship?
As for me, I believe that having values in a relationship is very important. I believe that REAL LOVE do exist, it's just the matter of time. Arguments happens very often in every relationship, but how will you overcome this obstacle, will be the result of your relationship in future. If you end it positively, you will have a healthy relationship. But if you end it negatively, your relationship will turn out nasty.
Here's some good relationship values:
1) In a relationship, just as in every other aspect of love, the spirit & attitude of things you do is as important as your actual actions. Embrace & incorporate these powerful values, and you'll start living with more integrity, honesty, compassion and enthusiasm. This, in turn, will breath new life into your relationship.
2) Own your own relationship.
You're fully accountable for your relationship. You should never believe you're suffering in your relationship because of an unworthy partner. Only when you stop seeing yourself as a victim, than you will start to see yourself as a fully competent and potent force in your relationship.
3) Accept the risk of vulnerability.
Do not let fear paralyze your life. Reaching out and letting yourself hope males you vulnerable. At least by putting yourself on the line, you'LLC have the chance of getting what you want, as opposed to hurting with no chance of getting what you want. Not to venture is to lose yourself.
4) Accept your partner.
If your partner experiences the spirit of acceptance in you, then it's most likely that he/she will find you approachable. Two partners who are moving towards each other, rather than both trying to seek safety from pain, have a dramatically improved chance of reconciliation.
5) Focus on friendship.
You have tl take a step back from the problems and pain of your intimate interactions, and focus on your partner's positive qualities. Turn back the clock and recall what it was that started the friendship that matured into a an intimate relationship.
6) Promote your partner's self-esteem.
You must bring the spirit of acceptance into affirmative & interactive action. Find the courage and creativity to promote and protect your partner's self-esteem, even when you feel compelled to be critical. By using the value of self-esteem, you provided a much more nurturing atmosphere, one that your partner will not want to abandon.
7) Aim your frustrations in the right direction.
Work at sorting out the causes of your frustration and resist the impulsive temptation to pick at your partner. Once you start seeing the negative things you perceive in your partner are often things you see in yourself. You will literally alter the nature of your interactions with your partner.
8) Be up front and forthright.
Nothing can be more frustrating than what is referred to an incongruent communication, where an individual says one things yet indicates nonverbal conduct. Strive to express your feelings I'm a mature & responsible way. By being honest about your emotions, you base your relationship upon integrity rather than lies & deception.
9) Make yourself happy instead of right.
Start evaluating the things you do in your relationship based on whether those thoughts, feelings & actions are working. For example, you don't have to prove over and over that you know what you're talking about more than your partner. Instead, choose a different emotion such as tolerance, understanding or compassion that does not escalate hostility in your relationship. By deciding to be happy rather than right, you will be receptive to your partner's attempts to de-escalate hostility and return to civil interactions.
10) Allow your relationship to transcend turmoil.
Rough times and arguments happen, and one way or another, they are going to impact the relationship. You must vow to no longer use threats as a lever to manipulate and control your partner. By doing so, you're setting a clear limit on the places a spirited discussion with your partner will not go.
11) Put motion into your emotion.
You must turn the concept of love into a proactive behavior. Don't be so consumed with negative messages that make your expectations low. You must require yourself and your relationship to truly be better.
12) The quality of any relationship is directly linked to the importance of the shared values. Two people may share a common interest in football, but if one thinks the other is a liar and a thief, they will likely not develop a deep relationship. On the other hand, if we have a mutual interest in keeping our relationship safe, our views on sports will not interfere with our working together for that common goal.
13) The true values that we hold are the ones by which we actually live. If we claim to value something, yet do the opposite of it, then we actually value something else. If I claim to value truth, yet lie, then there's something more important to me than telling the truth. My does prove that I hold some other value more deeply than honesty.
Being able to be loved by someone you love is a kind of un-explainable happiness. Be sure to treasure every single moment with your partner and create a memorable history.
Thanks for reading! ~
XOXO
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